or finances can strain the expression of sexuality and can create concerns about sexual desirability. But if you were comfortable with and enjoyed your sexuality before your illness, the chances are excellent that you will be able to keep or regain a good sexual self-image despite any changes brought about by cancer.
Many people, healthy or dealing with an illness, find that being sexually active is not important to them. This can be a healthy, normal choice for any individual or couple. But if sexual intimacy has been a comfort to you, you may want to continue being sexually active once your cancer has been diagnosed and treated.
This may require some adaptation of your normal sexual patterns, and it might be a challenge to change them. Support groups with the right orientation can give understanding and encouragement, and open, comfortable communication with your partner is essential. You may also need specific information and guidance from your doctor. But the subject of sexual health for people with chronic illnesses—especially cancer—has been neglected for far too long. Members of your medical team may find it hard to initiate discussions about sexual problems. But don't make the mistake of trying to be a "good" patient by not complaining and simply suffering in silence. Sexuality is a legitimate area of concern. Take the initiative and ask your doctor any questions you have about your sexuality. You can overcome many problems, reduce tensions and get much more sexual satisfaction.
